“ My makeup artistry can never be re shared on brand pages without people in the comments talking about my “moustache” (the measly peach fuzz on my top lip caused by hormone imbalances because of PCOS) - I go from feeling proud of having my work shared on huge platforms, to feeling like I’m back at school with kids who bullied me about it back then. I keep the peach fuzz because I have a platform to display what is normal. I never retouch my photos. I do it for my past self who didn’t feel normal, and all the other girls who are in the same boat. I want people to know that what is normal, isn’t a flaw.
“ I have never been and never will be petite. I was chubby as a child and reaching adulthood it was clear that I was a typical pear shaped body with a slightly heavier frame: 5'6" with my weight usually ranging from 71-73kg. The most hurtful comments have always been from boyfriends. Comments like: "Have you ever considered getting liposuction? You could use the fat from your butt to make your breasts bigger" "Your body is perfect... Except for your thick thighs and the cellulite. Why don't you do something about it?" "You have the potential to have a thigh gap. Stop making excuses and start working out harder." "I don't believe what your dietician told you about 70kg being your ideal weight. I think you can drop to 65 for a start... Perhaps even 63" And here I am in my early 30s,still trying to love myself and feel confident in my own skin...
“ Where to even begin? Should I start with when my uncle would act like I suddenly went invisible if I turned sideways because I was 2-dimensional from being so skinny? Or maybe I should start with when my cousins said I "had let myself go". Or was looking "fat", even "haggard". Regardless where I start, it seems that throughout my life,whether I gained a little or lost a little, everyone seemed to have an opinion on whether I needed to change that or not. The 1st time I was body shamed was when I was 8 or so. I've always had skinny legs and was unlovingly nicknamed Mowgli by some boys in school. Just recently a family member called them "chicken legs". It is therefore no surprise that I never show my legs and I'm always in long pants. But what happens when it's your own mother that says to you that your bathing suit bottoms look like they belong to a child and that your butt looks so small and you should "work on it" even though you exercise 5/6 times a wk? It hurts.
“ Hello, I just wanted to share with you a story that happened yesterday. Im 5"9,99kg with medium frame. I was on the road trip with my husband. Until we reached to the bumpy road, and the car touched and hit the bump right on my seat side and he just simply said "oh, it's always on your side that touch the bumps!" that's really sting me sharply and does make me teary in instantly until i can't even look at him in the eye😭😭😭😭
“ I found an email in which my husband told his brother how he and my former friend kissed and how flattered he was to have someone so beautiful and out of his league be attracted to him. I have struggled with really poor self-esteem and body image issues for most of my life. 12 years later and it still hurts.
“ Growing up I endlessly heard “wow your wrist is so thin I can wrap my thumb and finger around it”, “you’re so thin I could snap you” and even people asking if I had an eating disorder. Then you’d see a magazine cover saying a celebrity ONLY weighed ‘x’ and saying she looked ill etc and I’d think “but I weigh even less”. I hated my body and spent my teen years on all sorts of high calorie diets to try and put on weight and avoided exercise. All that did was encourage unhealthy habits. I now treat my body well and focus on health and not what the scales say but it was a long, long journey to get here!
“ ive always been told I have no curves, that my body is just straight up and down or like a ruler or that I'm not as curvy as they are. i dont think people realise that comments like this can hurt even if they don't mean them as a criticism, it makes me feel like less of a woman
“ Insecurity is introduced to us out of nowhere. It may be us on our own noticing a difference in our body compared to our friends or a model in a campaign. It maybe somebody else noticing the difference in us and pointing it out, maybe to humiliate us. Anyway, it sticks. Something so natural to us, is unnatural to someone else. I will always remember the first time I became aware of the size of my body, it was in 3rd grade when a boy in my class pointed out that I'd look taller if I was "less fat". To me, at that point I thought I was just bigger than my classmates because I was growing. The way I looked at my body changed that day. From when we were toddlers we were never told to accept and embrace the differences. We devoloped an instinct to notice variations and question them. And that's where we should be told that every distiction is beautiful. Variance prevents monotony, and every variation usually compliaments each other, keeping a balance in our systems and our bodies.
“ In an office of about 6 women one woman out of nowhere said very loudly ‘do you even wear a bra - you probably don’t need to because you’ve got no tits’ of course causing everyone in the room to immediately scrutinise my chest. In nursing it’s a very female workforce and I have faced so much body shaming - in every place I’ve worked. I’ve had to show the size label in my clothes after ordering a size 12 uniform and being told I was too thin to be a 12.
“ As someone who is “too thin” I’m sick of hearing about it. Yesterday at work we had the weight chair out to monitor residents (care home for people with dementia) and the staff were weighing themselves too so I hopped on to join in and my colleague read my weight and joked “aaah we can’t be friends now!” And she’s a lovely woman and I like her a lot but it stung ! (especially after last week when I was taking my jumper off and my top lifted a bit and she shouted ‘do you want to get any skinnier?!?’ across the floor) I would never pass a comment on anyone else’s body - we were all joining in with weighing ourselves to make the residents feel more comfortable with it and it seemed fun until I was singled out - wish we could just chill with the commentary and projection.
“ I am skinny since childhood, skeleton,boys like thick thighs ,you got bones,u look like hanger,start wearing padded bra,u are flat chest,u wont be able to conceive a child are some of the worst things i have heard since childhood.When i entered cllg,my college mates circulated my photo in whole cllg from my instagram saying worlds world's only boobless girl.skiiny shaming has broken down to me to depths. I suffered border line personality disorder for two years.though now i am recovered i realised that whenever people body shame you they are reflecting their personal insecurities and trying to make themselves better by saying words to you .. so dont feel bad for yourself ,feel pity for such people and pray to god to bless them.
“ Not one but several guys who told me things (as if they were "nice" and "caring") like: "ohh, you would be so cute if only you did xxx or xxx to your body" or "you're not as sexy as those girls, but at least you've got a cute face!" - or "I actually prefer smaller girls. But if you lose xx pounds by the summer, I can consider to date you"...Now I would definitely dump those guys immediately. But back then, in my early 20s, I both believed them and tried to follow their "advice". And yup, it still stings.
“ I have an ex who used to say "you have such a pretty face, don't worry you can fix the rest"...at the time I was like "oh he said I'm pretty!". Needless to say I grew up and got outta there cause I realised that there is nothing wrong with me and I don't need to fix a damn thing to be beautiful, desirable or worthy of love
“ I was 17 and suffering from an Eating Disorder. My girlfriend at the time said “You look like a Hollister model”. Sounds like a compliment, but I always think about how, after recovery and the weight gain, my underweight body was valued in a way that my recovered body isn’t ....
“ I had a role model, my mother who never wore makeup to be inspired from. She is the most beautiful and confident person I have known. To be honest, I never thought I needed to wear make up. yeah sure, my co workers have suggested time to time but its too uncomfortable for me to be something else I am not naturally. We are three sisters all share the same thought. PS: I regret wearing makeup on my wedding day, I cried and think it could have been much better without
“ I recently heard my husband of 16years describe me to his friend as 'dried up and fucking useless'. He had answered the phone without realising. I was absolutely devastated (I have ME and have had to make a lot of changes to my life to survive). Heartbroken, I told my Mum. She told me to dress up, put on make up and look good, because 'you still can, if you try'.
“ I was always praised for my body and the way I looked, so eventually I started to think that it defined me. Girls were always jealous and boys were always looking at me like I only mattered physically. Once I was even asked: "Can you please get fatter? Thanks." And now that I have gained weight, I realise how wrong that was and how much it affected me. I never got the chance to be happy with my body myself, I only kept myself busy with how people reacted to it. I'm not here to be pretty or attractive for anyone else but me.
“ I was 14 and I thought I was completely in love with this guy until he told me that dreadlocks could be made out of my arm hair and laughed.. I will never forget it. I'm still learning to embrace my hair, even when everything around me is telling me that it's not considered feminine.
“ I developed unhealthy habits around food because of fat-shaming. My parents pushed me to start dieting, start tracking my foods, and my friends would laugh at fat jokes. I lost weight by purging, fasting, and picked up binge and purge cycle. People would ask tips on my weight loss journey, even guys approached me too for this, as if my weight loss is the most interesting part of me. I still have a bad relationship with food. Fat-shaming, even subtly, can permanently damaged someone. I couldn't look at food the same way ever again.
“ I've had a ton of negative comments thrown at me... you're fat, you're too thin, you're too muscular. You look like a rat, a rabbit, a pig... your nose looks like a ski jump... you have bad hair... your eyebrows suck... why are your teeth like that? You're head is SO big.... you have a man's arse. But people have said nice things too, I choose to focus on those.
“ Lots of butthurt, insecure men have ridiculed my height (6’3) over the years. If not that, really creepy ones have openly expressed their weird fetish for tall women. Thanks to this, I don’t feel like a normal person at all. I can’t go a day without wishing I was short because I either feel incapable of being attractive or just simply a fetish rather than a human being. It seems nobody has a normal view on women who are taller than average.
“ As a Kid I’d always be called by my class mates, friends & cousins even for being too skinny because I was a fussy eater & couldn’t help. And honestly I’ve looked like this since grade 6th & I’m 24 right now so it’s just been like this for me since forever, I don’t see myself changing much. People around me casually mentioned “Don't go outside air pressure is so high and put some coins or stones in your pocket while going outside otherwise you 'll fly with air" and many more other comments too which I can't mention here.
“ One day, when I was around 10-11, my dad looked at my stomach from side view and told me that real women should have curves in chest and booty area and not the stomach.. and that I have it all, just reversed. He didn't mean to hurt me, and I wasn't particularly hurt by it then... But a few years and eating disorders later I realized maybe that wasn't such a clever thing to say to your child.
“ A major high street fashion chain does not stock above size 14 in their stores as standard. I was told so by a sales assistant when I asked if they had a size 18 in a dress I fell in love with. She said - ‘We’re a high-fashion retailer and there are other brands that cater specifically for women like you’.
“ My first experience of shaving my pubic hair was when I was 15, when my first boyfriend told me that I should shave. Prior to this I had no idea that pubic hair was shameful. 11 years later, although I know I am not shaving for myself - I still feel like I wouldn't be able to enjoy sex without shaving.